The Judge and the Accused in our Minds

I think we are complex living things. Our minds are unfathomable. Maria Duval compares our minds to being a Judge and an Accused. Let me explain more about this interesting comparison.

One a side of our mind, there is a part of it that judges and deduces, from trivial issues like weather, neighbour affairs, office affairs to heavier issues like world politics. So how does this Judge judge? Inside everyone of us, in the mind, we have a Book of Law that is cross referenced by our inner Judges everyday; everything you think or do not think, everything you feel or do not feel.

We are basically under the mercy of this Judge who will deduce you are guilty and must be punished and made you feel ashamed. This goes on for as long as your whole lifespan.

On the contrary but going on in parallel, there is another portion of your mind which Maria Duval compares to as a "victim" or "accused". There are at the receiving end of the sentences passed down by the Judge. This is the part that suffers the rebuke, the guilt and the shame. This is part of you that says: "Poor me, I am not good enough, not intelligent enough, not talented enough, I do not deserve to be loved, I am not good enough to deserved this, etc...."

So why is there a dual system in us?

No matter what culture or ethnic race you belong to, there are always a set of to-dos and not-to-dos passed down from generation to next generation. The beliefs are so strong that even years later, when we discover new ideas and try to make our own decisions, we realise just how they influence our life. Adults say we should not go against these beliefs for they are sacred to the well-being of the family, or fear will set in and bad lucks will befall. Contravening them means you are "emotionally poisoned", thus feeling more sense of insecurity in your life. It's influence is so strong that even when we understand, in principle, that these beliefs are not true, we still feel guilt and shame and criticism every time we break a rule.

Maria Duval however states that to change your life, there is a need to adjust this dual system in us because she says that 95% of the time the beliefs etched in our mind are lies, and we are perennially under the spell of these deep-rooted lies.

Unfortunately, this is not something that is easily changed, because our life is always governed by fear and nobody is free from it, not even the powerful men around are free from fear, anger, emotions and struggles. It's the same state of fear one experiences thousands of years ago and it will also be the same two thousand years in the future.

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