We learn how to role play since we were young

When we were children, adults would always say to us "Good boy" or "Good girl" when we made adults like parents, teachers, uncles or aunties smiled. But when we were not obeying them, we might got a scolding from them for being "not good".

So there is this rule in our young minds that when we do good, there are rewards while there are punishments when we do bad. Being intelligent kids, we soon learned to be getting the attention of others in order to get the rewards of being praised and loved. Sometimes, we pretended to be good in order to please others, even to the extent of victimising other kids to make them as the "bad ones".

So we begin to "play roles", and tried to be someone we were not out of fear of rejection. Therefore, in the end, we developed into characters that were not truthful to our own original mentality, even as we grew up. Natural instincts are soon being lost and replaced by this "domesticated survival skills". This is the same in every country, race, and culture. And when we began to think logically, we started to use the word "NO", but that might come at a price because adults will reprimand us as rebels and that was how fears seeped into our minds, and the fear will accompany us for the rest of our life, hiding deeply in our subconscious mind.

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