Need to be accepted

Think about this: Some people allow others to behave appallingly towards them and will even put up with being hit, humiliated and treated as if they were worthless. Why is that so, asks Maria Duval? This is because in their belief system, they are saying to themselves: "I deserve it. This person is doing me a favour by being with me. I don't deserve love and respect. I haven't been good enough."

We have a need to be accepted and loved by others, but we are incapable of accepting and loving ourselves. The more self-respect a person has, the kinder they are to ourselves is the result of a rejection of the self, which is in turn is the result of a failure to live up to an image of perfection that is impossible to achieve.

So, this whole infernal mechanism or vicious cycle is sustained and governed by fear!

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